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Twin’s Dream

Writer: Zenat

The city lay still under the soft glow of the moon. The power had been out for hours, and silence filled the empty streets. It was a white night— one of those rare nights when darkness could not fully take over, when light refused to disappear. Zainab and I sat in the yard, wrapped in our shawls, staring at the sky. The cold air touched our faces, but we did not move. The stars above twinkled like tiny hopes in the vast darkness. There was a time when our nights were filled with stories about the future. We had spent our whole childhood walking side by side, following the same path. Every morning, we hurried to school together, our books pressed against our chests, our laughter filling the streets. We had big dreams—to graduate together, to hold our diplomas in our hands, and to step into the future as strong, educated women. We promised each other that no matter what happened, we would never stop learning. However, life had other plans. One morning, everything changed. The school we have loved, the place where we had built our dreams, has taken away from us. The doors were shut, not just on the building, but also on our futures. Suddenly, the streets we had walked with confidence felt unfamiliar. The world that once welcomed us now seemed to whisper, You do not belong here anymore. For months, we sat at home, trapped between four walls. The books on our shelves gathered dust, and the notebooks we once filled with lessons remained untouched. We felt like birds in a cage—able to see the sky, but never able to fly. One evening, as we sat in the same yard, lost in our thoughts, Zainab whispered, “Do you think this is how our story ends?” I shook my head. “No,” I said firmly. “When a door is closed for us, Allah will open a greater door.”

Twin's Dreams
Twin’s Dreams

It was a few weeks later that we were able to continue our conversation in the same spot. “Look, our prayer was answered. We found this school—an online school, better than the one we had before. A place where we could learn again, where our voices mattered, where our dreams still had a chance. It was not just a school; it seemed like a light in our darkness, a door that led us back to hope. “Maybe this is our white night,” I whispered, looking at the glowing sky. Zainab smiled softly. “Maybe. Maybe this is the night before a new morning.” The wind blew gently, carrying away the heaviness in our hearts. The world was still uncertain, but for the first time in a long while, we knew one thing for sure—our journey was not over. The future was still ours to chase.

Living Mindfully: The True Meaning of Progress and What Ladakh Can Teach Us About Time and Happiness

Writer: Zuhra

The book Ancient Futures by Helena Norberg-Hodge changed the way I think about progress and happiness. It tells the story of Ladakh, a place in the Himalayas where people once lived simply and happily. They valued their relationships, their traditions, and their connection to nature. But when modernization arrived, things began to change. People who once felt rich in culture and community started to feel poor. But were they really poor, or did they just start seeing themselves differently?

This book made me question what really makes life good. We are often told that success means having more, more money, more things, more achievements. But Ladakh before modernization shows a different way. People had fewer things, but they had more time, more purpose, and stronger relationships. It made me wonder: are we actually losing something important in modern life? If we are always chasing more, are we missing the simple joys that make life meaningful?

One of the biggest lessons from this book is that true wealth is not about money. It is about feeling connected–to other people, to nature, and to something meaningful. In Ladakh, people worked together, helped each other, and shared what they had. They did not compete or feel the need to prove themselves. Their worth was not measured by their income but by their kindness and their role in the community. But when modernization came, they were told they had to change, move to cities, and measure success in money. This made them feel insecure and uncertain about their way of life.

This book does not just talk about Ladakhi, it makes us think about our own lives. It asks us to question what we believe. Do money and technology really make us happier? Or are they making us more stressed and disconnected? We are taught to value growth, efficiency, and competition, but are those things making our lives better? Or are they pushing us toward a life where we are always busy, always worried, and always feeling like we are not enough?

At the same time, modernization has brought many good things. It has given people medicine, education, and new opportunities. It has helped people escape poverty and improve their standard of living. But the problem is when we accept everything new without thinking. We should not reject modern life, but we also should not forget the wisdom of traditional ways. The best life is one that takes good things from both worlds and finds balance. If we only focus on modern progress, we risk losing our sense of connection, peace, and meaning. But if we reject all modern advancements, we might miss out on opportunities that could improve our lives. The key is to be aware, to choose wisely, and to create a way of living that makes sense for us.

This book also made me reflect on my own life. I used to think I had to follow a certain path—get good grades, go to a famous university, get a high-paying job. But Ancient Futures made me stop and ask, “Is this really what I want? Or is this just what society tells me to want?” Realizing this was both exciting and scary. It means I can choose my own path, but it also means I have to take responsibility for my choices. It made me think about what success really means to me. Is it just about a good career, or is it about living a life that feels true to who I am?

Another important idea in this book is how much our surroundings affect us. We often think people are naturally selfish or competitive, but Ladakh proves that is not true. Before modernization, people there were peaceful, confident, and content. After being introduced to Western ideas, they became more anxious and insecure. This made me think about my own environment. Who am I becoming because of where I live and who I spend time with? Am I surrounding myself with people and ideas that make me a better person? Or am I being influenced by stress, pressure, and expectations that do not actually make me happy?

I also started thinking about time. In Ladakh, people worked hard, but they never rushed. They had time to sit together, talk, and enjoy life. But in modern society, everyone is always in a hurry. We feel guilty if we are not “productive.” But what are we really producing? Stress? Tiredness? A life where we are always looking ahead but never truly present? This book made me see that time is one of the most valuable things we have, and we should be careful about how we use it. Are we spending our time in a way that makes us happy, or are we just trying to keep up with the world around us?

This book makes me want to live more mindfully. If I want a meaningful life, I need to be careful about what I focus on. Who do I spend time with? What do I read and watch? What kind of future am I creating for myself? If I surround myself with people who value simple joys, deep conversations, and real human connection, I will naturally move in that direction. If I fill my life with stress, distractions, and meaningless competition, I will lose sight of what really matters. We may not be able to change everything about the modern world, but we can change the way we live in it.

The most important lesson from Ancient Futures is that we always have a choice. We do not have to follow the path given to us. We can stop, think, and decide what is truly important. We do not have to reject modern life, but we also should not forget the lessons of tradition. Modernization gives us knowledge and opportunities, but tradition gives us connection, peace, and purpose. The best life is one that takes the best from both and finds balance.

This book also taught me that change does not have to be big to be meaningful. Small choices—choosing to spend time with loved ones, choosing to slow down, choosing to question what success really means, can make a difference in how we feel about our lives. Happiness is not something we achieve at the end of a long journey. It is something we create in the way we live every day.

This book does not give all the answers, but it makes us ask the right questions. And for me, that is enough to start making real changes both in how I think and how I live. The world will always keep moving forward, but it is up to us to decide how we want to move with it.

Tools of Maturity Chart for the Will Years

 

Name _______________________  Start Date _____________  End Date ______________

     Score your progress in both the Now and Goal columns on a scale from 1 to 12 (1 = no skill, 12 = established)

The BodyNowGoalEnd
P-1 Gaining Control of Your Diet: Choose healthy, well-balanced meals.


P-2 Getting Up in the Morning: Wake up with ease, cheerfully and enthusiastically.


P-3a Healthy Habits: Exercise – Get plenty of physical activity.


P-3b Healthy Habits: Posture – Keep spine erect in sitting, standing and moving.


P-3c Healthy Habits: Cleanliness – Have good personal habits (bathing, brushing teeth…).


P-3d Healthy Habits: Physical Appearance – Dress appropriately (neat, clean and modest).


Feelings    

F-1 Making Friends: Practice listening, helping and sharing.


F-2a Choosing Happiness: Attitude – Develop a positive approach to life.


F-2b Choosing Happiness: Humor and Playfulness – Find amusing and uplifting perspectives.


F-3a Practicing Peace: Contentment – Seek a state of centeredness and calmness.


F-3b Practicing Peace: Self-Respect – Nurture a healthy relationship with yourself.


F-4 Nurturing Even-Mindedness: Calm and relax the mind and feelings as needed.


F-5 Working with Others: Bring harmony and sincerity into your relationships.


F-6 Expanding Sensitivity: Appreciate beauty in music, nature and other people.


Will Power


W-1 Living Truth: Speak, think and act with integrity.    

W-2a Building Will Power: Self-Control – Choose actions consciously and wisely.


W-2b Building Will Power: Initiative – Try new things.


W-2c Building Will Power: Perseverance – Bring projects to completion.


W-2d Building Will Power: Orderliness –  Organize schoolwork, room, etc.


W-2e Building Will Power: Punctuality – Keep a schedule and arrive on time.


W-3 Cultivating Courage: Overcome worry; face challenges with determination and faith.


Intellect


I-1 Developing Concentration: Ignore distractions and focus attention.


I-2 Exploring Flexibility: Be open to different ideas and experiences.


I-3a Sharpening the Mind: Attentiveness – Notice details.


I-3b Sharpening the Mind: Introspection – Be aware of inner realities.


I-3c Sharpening the Mind: Memory – Remember things and positive moments.


I-3d Sharpening the Mind: Reasoning – Think logically.


I-3e Sharpening the Mind: Imagination – Be creative in daily activities.


Additional quality that you’d like to track. ____________________________


A Skills for Living Course for 12 & 13 Year-Olds

By Aryavan McSweeney

We are now two months into our inaugural middle school Life Skills course, in association with the Living Wisdom Online High School. We have a wonderful group of 7 students, hailing from many parts of the world: India, Iran, Italy, and Uganda. 

The purpose of the class was to give potential incoming students to the high school to get an experience of EFL’s unique approach to education, even in an online format. The past two years have given students around the world ample opportunity to become accustomed to taking classes online, which gives us the chance to show an even richer contrast between EFL and other approaches.

Already we (Niyatti, one of the wonderful teachers from LWS Pune, is leading the course with me) have had a wonderful time learning about and from our new students. We’ve done will power challenges, games to discover our likes and dislikes (and try to transmute them), and even some affirmation and meditation. 

One day per week we give up something that we enjoy, with some notable examples being television, Instagram, and even milk! There has been much laughter in figuring out the best approach to building the will power necessary to overcome these challenges. One student gave up sweets for the day, then found themselves caught in a rain storm, taking shelter in what he later discovered was a sweet shop. When the proprietor offered free sweets, rather than succumb to temptation, he opted to run home in the rain!

Through the experience in this class, Niyatti and I hope to offer more such classes for students in India, to give them a taste of what school could be. We are now seeing that offering these “Skills for Living” is a great way to bridge the gap between what we offer and what most students are receving, both in terms of content and of marketing. Parents are interested in trying to bring balance to their child’s academic-focused education, and the children (especially at this age) are enjoying the fun that comes in new challenges. We feel this could be one model for expanding EFL’s reach throughout India, and perhaps abroad.

Mahnoush’s Story

In the Fall of 2018 we were trying our best to rejuvenate the high school at Ananda Village. Our program which had started in 1997 had fallen on hard times with enrollment shrinking to two students. As part of our outreach, we received an outstanding application from Mahnoush, a student in Iran. Since all of our classes at that time were taught in-person here at the Village, we began the process of getting her a student visa. Due to the political climate at that time, we continually ran into roadblocks. At one point Mahnoush was having an encouraging conversation with an agent at the U.S. Embassy in New Delhi (there is no U.S. Embassy in Iran). He told her that everything looked to be in order, but that he would need to make one last check with his supervisor. When he returned, his face looked tense, and he told her that her application was not approved. Mahnoush was devastated. When I heard the news, I took my frustration into meditation with a conversation that went something like this. “Master, I know you want your approach to education to continue to grow. Here is a perfect student who would benefit greatly by joining us. Why can’t it happen?” When I got calm enough, the thought came to me, “Why don’t you try to work with her online?” I immediately got up and went to my computer. There, in my inbox was a message from Mahnoush’s parents that said, “Is there any chance that she could join you online?” We forged ahead and a year and a half later when Covid hit, we had an up and running online program that could serve our students seamlessly.

An-Out-of-the-Box Experience

By Shanti Pollacek
Living Wisdom High School Student

A school that takes two weeks out of the year to go traveling is extremely rare and many people don’t understand the incredible learning experiences that happen during these trips. The service adventure trips offer education from experience rather than from a teacher or a textbook. Here is a look into my personal experience from this past trip to an orphanage in Mexico and what I learned.

Cultural Experience

Being immersed in the Mexican culture for two weeks was beyond different from the lifestyle I was used to. Their food, their language, their customs, their beliefs and their qualities were all different from that in California. I found it incredibly humbling to be in a position where I knew nothing. At the orphanage, we did everything they did: we ate with them in a dining hall, cleaned and cooked with them for every meal, did chores every day at 5:30 a.m., went to mass with them, played with them, and learned how to put ourselves in their shoes. Many of them have gone through a lot in their life and learning their backgrounds was very eye opening for me.

Spanish Immersion

I have been taking high school Spanish for the past two years and before the trip, I had learned the basics though I hadn’t yet wrapped my mind around the flow of the language. I had always been told that if you wanted to learn a language, then immersion was the best way to learn. I always thought that I could just study, study, study and bam I would speak it. However, I found that this was not the case. At first it was exhausting trying to understand the language and constantly try to recall words to communicate. Yet as the days went on, I began to understand the language and my ears could recognize whether something was said right or not. By the end of the trip, I could have a basic conversation with the kids. We would talk about our favorite animal, song, movie, color, and book as well as where we had traveled and what we liked to do. Personally, I felt like I learned more in those two weeks than in all my years of studying Spanish. Emersion is definitely the way to learn a language.

Learning Independence

I have always lived with my parents and have never gone to a boarding school or lived with friends. This trip was good for me as it helped me strengthen my independence and self-reliance. I had to manage my time, keep up with my homework, take care of myself, recognize when I needed space and speak up for myself. The teachers were there for us whenever we needed them, though it is still different than having your parents there.

Creating Harmony

At the orphanage, all of the students as well as one of our teachers all stayed in a room together. For nearly the entire trip we were with people non-stop. Sometimes, people got irritable or would have minor conflicts with each other. We all desired harmony during the trip, so when these things happened, we had to act maturely and resolve these conflicts on our own. I had one of these experiences and we were able to directly confront each other and explain what we each needed and how to resolve the situation. For the rest of the trip, we were fine. It was a very valuable experience for me as I realized how simple resolutions could be by being clear and direct.

Respect For a Different Religion

This year, we had a section of our history class where we studied all of the religions and their similarities and differences. At the orphanage, everyone is strictly Catholic. I had had different perceptions towards Catholicism before the trip than when I actually experienced it. After the trip, I had a real respect for the religion even though I personally have different beliefs. We also had to learn a few prayers in Spanish and recite them each day before each meal and before bed. I think being able to live like someone else for a few weeks can help you learn a lot about yourself and what you relate to.

Inspiration to Help the World

During the trip, I witnessed some very poor people, suffering people, sad people, dying animals, dirty areas and all sorts of scenes that make your heart want to reach out and help them. I got inspired to continue helping people in need. So far, I have fundraised $600 towards the Heifer Foundation, which gives livestock to people in need and gives them a way to feed and support themselves. I now have a desire to help children around the world. There was a girl at the orphanage named Lucerito who I made a special connection with. She had had a very challenging life with both her parents having passed. Often times, she was sad or lonely and I realized that no matter what people go through, being loved cures any hardship. I tried to treat her like a younger sister and now we are pen pals. Reaching out to children can mean the world to them.